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Here are a few common questions, just give us a shout if this doesn’t answer your questions.
This is usually organised by one of our parish administrators, Rachel Smith or Hilary Dipper. They can be contacted by telephone on 01726 64299, by email: firstname.lastname@example.org, or by calling in at the Parish Office : 9 Trevarthian Road, St Austell (up the hill behind the church).
The parish church is here for the community and we are willing to discuss your particular circumstances and requirements to see if we can help. Weddings are usually arranged and conducted by either our vicar, Rev’d Howard Flint or our curate, Rev’d Ian Gulland.
We regularly have couples choosing one of our churches for different reasons:
We recognise that particular pieces of music and poems can be a very special part of people’s lives and the service is a great place to include these pieces. If you do have particular requests then it is a good idea to mention this when you meet with the minister for a chat.
These meetings are really important as it is a great opportunity for you to get to know the minister and for the minister to get to know you. This means that the service can be tailored to your life story and your wishes. It is also a good way for the minister to reassure you that you will be well supported and that you are in very capable hands.
Once you have met the minister you will discuss:
Yes, there are some things that do not change in Christian services, for example wedding vows. Otherwise there is quite a bit of freedom regarding the style of the service.
We always request that the couple, however long they have been together, come to preparation sessions. There are issues that those who have never married may need to think about. For those already living together the ceremony can signal the beginning of a new phase in their relationship and it is good to reflect on things that have happened in the past before the beginning of the new chapter. If someone has been divorced previously, this is a great time to learn from the past and be able to move on in a positive way.
The sessions are interactive (meaning it is more of a discussion) and explore the meaning of marriage.
This has changed over the last twenty years. Local church policy now influences whether or not the minister will marry a divorced person. The parish priest has permission to consider each case on its merits.
When the couple sits down to talk with the priest, together they will explore the reasons and causes of any previous marriage breakdowns. The priest is keen to see that the couple understand why a previous marriage ended and what needs to be done to avoid similar mistakes in the future. This is done to protect the new marriage. The priest asks the couple if they have both considered the past, forgiven when necessary and feel they are in a good place to move into a new relationship.
The minister is always keen to know how couples have got on after their big day and as a church we would be delighted to welcome you at services. Alternatively, if couples prefer to meet the minister in confidence, then appointments can be made through the parish office.